We’ve all heard the term, ‘change your habits and you change your life!’, but more often than not, it’s something we find very hard to do or even feel overwhelmed by the thought of starting or simply know where to start.
I get it, I really do. When I was really sick, feeling completely overwhelmed by my life, anxious, frustrated and to be honest feeling quite miserable most of the time, I just didn’t know where or how to start. I knew I needed to make big changes with how I was living my life, but the thought of ‘big change’ was what was overwhelming me the most. This made it hard for me to figure out what steps to take first, then I would loose motivation.
Maybe this is you, or perhaps someone you know who need to make change in their life, but just doesn’t know how or where to start.
Habits are behaviours we form over time and can be so ingrained in our daily life, that we are not even conscious of them. Now we have good habits and not so good ones. The good ones, we want to keep, but when we talk about positive change, we want to focus on the habits that are holding us back from our fullest potential.
This is where people usually come unstuck, as in some of our not so good habits, like eating junk foods for example, seems like a big habit to break, all at once. Very few people can just wake up in the morning and decide, “that’s it, no more junk food for me, for the rest of my life!”- yes, you may know someone who can do this, but trust me, few people can and if they do, they more than often come unstuck very quickly and end up in a worse position than when they started.
So what did I do, to make changes in my life and set me on a path of great energy and health?
Here’s what I did;
- MAKE THE DECISION TO CHANGE! Yes, obvious I know, but stay with me here… I hear this from people all the time, when it comes to making improvements with their health, “oh, I know I need to change but I don’t have the time, I ‘ve got to….. When I……” My point here is we often make, put off and find excuses to not change, even when we know it’s so desperately needed. So when I say I made the decision, I mean I actually said, “Kerry, you have to change here, stop making excuses, no more, now is the time and just start!”. Change always begins with the choice and real desire to want it.
- START WITH ONE VERY SMALL STEP- Here is the biggest key to change. Often when we see the big goal in front of us, it’s overwhelming and seems so huge that this stops us in our tracks, then we can’t even get it off the ground. So break it down into small simple steps. For example; I knew I needed to radically change my diet, but to do this over night just seem too big a task, so I started with focusing on one small thing at a time. I started with something small like changing what I ate for breakfast? This became my focus. I started learning about healthier choices around this, then implemented them and once I felt comfortable that this was built into my routine and became a positive habit, I tackled the next step and so on.
- CREATE ACCOUNTABILTY- this was key to the success of my initial steps to making real positive change with my health. Accountability helps you stay committed to your goals as you are more likely follow through with them. It keeps you engaged and helps measure your success and progress. This I not only know from personal experience but also the experience with my coaching clients. So often, we make the decision to change, which we know is the first step, then we loose motivation, or we trip up, then berate ourselves and give up. So creating accountability is key to staying on track. This can be in the form of-
- find a purpose partner- this could be a family member, partner, close friend or work colleague. Tell them what you intend to do and that you want them to hold you accountable. Allow them to ask about your progress and provide positive and constructive feedback and motivation. But make sure it is someone you trust will keep you on track and be a positive influence. Choose wisely!
- Become personally accountable for your success. Personal responsibility will shift your perspective and empower you to eradicate the excuses that may be holding you up. You may like to use a tracking APP on your phone or create a chart to stick on your fridge, to keep you accountable.
- Get a mentor or a coach. A mentor or coach, you will accelerate your success, break through limitations and achieve much more than you ever can on your own. Please contact me below if you wish to find out more about how I can assist you in breaking habits that are holding you back.
So there you have it, 3 powerful steps to starting you on the path to real change- make the decision for real change, then break it down into small easily to implement steps, on step at a time, rather than being overwhelmed by the big picture and create accountability to keep you on track!
Good luck and always remember you can contact me here at Grounded Chic Headquarters if you have any questions or need accountability around making positive habit changes with your health and wellbeing. I’d love to help!